Miranda Heaston and Her Twin Boys

Our hopes for a long pregnancy turned into praying for months, then weeks and finally days of trying to keep our twins from their imminent, premature delivery. We knew the odds were against us for an early arrival but never imagined our sons would be born 3 months premature, spending 9 weeks in the hospital before ever coming home.

Born October 7, 2008, Truman weighed 2lbs 8 ounces and Creed weighed 2lbs 13 ounces. As quickly as they came into our lives, they were wisped away in isolettes and being rushed to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU). Having not ever placed my eyes on one son, and only briefly seeing the other, I was helpless to care for my newborns. And the sense of guilt in not being able to carry them to a longer gestation was hollowing.

First sight of their frail and fragile bodies flooded me with emotion. They were perfect, yet tiny. Thin, almost transparent skin covered their bodies. Tubes and wires coming from every direction and tape masking their noses and mouths to hold more tubes in place.

The nurses walked me through what I was seeing, but the words were jumbled and unrecognizable and the beating of my heart was too loud to hear anything. The learning curve was high and trying to keep up with the lingo and pace of the NICU was overwhelming. But they were patient and understanding. They cared for my sons in a way that I could not. Which put me at ease, yet also left me feeling incapable. I was a mother, yet every night their cribs were empty at home.

After 67 days we were terrified and excited to bring our children home. The monitors they continued to wear for two additional months were a constant reminder that our children are were still fragile. We kept them in a bubble for months before allowing ourselves, and them, the chance to enjoy life. And adjusting to “normal” took months.

I joined Hand to Hold to support other families faced with similar circumstances and complexities that accompany life in and out of the NICU. A journey that starts in the NICU doesn’t end when the child is released and challenges at adjusting to home and digesting the NICU event can be traumatic. I want others to know that I am there to listen.

Leave a comment in support of this family.

Make a donation in honor of this family (place “Honoring Truman and Creed Heaston” in the memo line).

Sign up to become a Helping Hand Peer Mentor for another family.

Comments

  1. I was hoping to see those sweethearts featured here soon.

  2. Debra Holt says:

    Looking at those beautiful, normal sized boys, you would never know that they were born three months early! I remember how exhausted you and Roger were from going back and forth to the hospital twice a day, every day. You both had such dark circles under your eyes and you both wanted nothing more than to bring those babies home. My heart went out to the both of you and the boys. It is so good to be able to say that I am the Aunt of two healthy, spirited, intelligent twin boys! Creed and Truman are truly a miracle and a blessing to our family. Miranda, you will make the perfect mentor! I’m so proud of you for being there for someone else who is going through such a horrible, scary time in their lives. I love you- “Aunt DeDe”.

  3. I can’t think of anyone who would be a better mentor than Miranda! A family matched with her as their Helping Hand is truly lucky.

Speak Your Mind

*

Time limit is exhausted. Please reload CAPTCHA.