Once a month, we share a wonderful organization with you that’s dedicated to helping NICU babies and their families – offering you an opportunity to learn more and to give back.

October 2012

Featured Organization – Teeny Tears

by Megan Bradshaw

In the summer of 2008, our family received the exciting and surprising news that we were expecting twins. Knowing that we were now involved in a high risk pregnancy, my husband and I fasted and prayed for peace and guidance. We both received a very strong impression that our boys would be absolutely fine.

The funny thing about answers
With our understanding flawed,
Is that “fine” did not mean what we thought.
“Fine” was something else to God.

Early in November, when I was only 28 weeks along, my water broke in the middle of the night. After calling one of our good neighbors to stay with our children, we raced to the hospital. At first the nurses couldn’t find any heartbeats, but that didn’t seem terribly unusual or alarming because they were very young and very small babies. After they had given me all the medicines in their arsenal to stop my labor, they became more serious about finding heartbeats. They found one tiny, weak heartbeat and it was failing quickly. They rushed me across the hall to the operating room and brought my sons into the world 4 minutes later through an emergency c-section.

When I awoke from the general anesthesia several hours later, my whole world had changed. Our son Crew was 1 pound 8 ounces, the size of a dollar bill. He had been born without a heartbeat, but was quickly resuscitated. Two more minutes and we would have lost him. As it was, he had a very tumultuous 3 months in the NICU, camping out on death’s door more times than we care to count. Today our little survivor attends special needs preschool. He started walking and talking this past summer and is a great blessing to our family.

Our son Dex was 2 pounds 1 ounce. It was my husband’s greatest sorrow to tell me that our little one did not survive his journey. He had passed away minutes to hours before birth from an undiagnosed and dangerous disease called Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome. It’s a condition that affects a small percentage of identical twins that share a placenta.

Dex was placed in my arms wearing this beautiful handmade gown that was appropriately sized for his tiny body. The bereavement specialist at the hospital took hand molds and feet molds so that we could always remember how small he had been. They took beautiful pictures of him that we count among our greatest treasures today. They were even able to take a few pictures of our sons together in Crew’s incubator, the only photos we will ever have of them together outside of the womb.

Meeting Dex in person was one of the most beautiful experiences of my life. I felt him the moment his body entered the room and holding him in my arms the first time was like a healing salve for my broken heart. I’ll never be able to explain it perfectly, but the closest I can come is to say that I just felt an overwhelming sense of peace and hope and love from my Heavenly father. He was so beautiful. His spirit stayed with us throughout the day, giving us comfort and letting us know without question that he loved us, he knew us, he claimed us as his parents, and that things had turned out exactly as they were supposed to, no matter how we got there.

I don’t wish to give the impression that my heart wasn’t completely broken, because the truth is that I didn’t know how I could bear to live without him. There were so many moments of anguish, nights that I was afraid to fall asleep, tortured thoughts of how we could have saved him with earlier intervention.

Sometimes the miracle is in the miraculous healing of a child against all odds, as we received with Crew. And sometimes the miracle is in the healing of our hearts when trials and tragedy strike, crushing our expectations and threatening our faith.

As we came closer and closer to Dex and Crew’s third birthday, I began searching for a project that would honor Dex’s memory and give purpose to my grief. I was looking for something economical, meaningful, and within my limited sewing abilities.

When my sister showed me what her friend Arah had started making for the local hospitals in Spokane, I knew immediately that I had found my answer. My heart told me that there was no turning back. I would make tiny little diapers for stillborn micropreemie infants and those that pass away in the NICU. With full support from Arah, we launched Teeny Tears last November.

Approximately 26,000 children are stillborn in the United States every year, about 1 in 160 births. Another 19,000 children die within the first 28 days of life. A significant number of these angels are preemie or micropreemie infants. The littlest angels are so small that even the very tiniest Pampers NICU diaper is far too large for them. Besides that, their skin is so delicate that commercial diapers are very damaging.

Our volunteers donate to hospitals and bereavement support organizations at no charge. These small diapers fit angels between 18 and 23 weeks gestation. The large ones fit angels between about 24 and 30 or 32 weeks. The need for these diapers is enormous and endless. Gone are the days when angel babies must be left with naked bums because there is nothing suitable. No longer must nurses try to fashion a “diaper” out of cotton balls and tape. Our little diapers offer dignity and modesty to the tiniest angel babies. We provide two diapers per family, so that the parents don’t have to choose whether to keep the diaper in a memory box or to bury the diaper with their child. This way they can do both.

Grieving parents often feel very lost, alone, and confused. Every special effort to honor their loss goes a long way. It is very difficult for a family to say goodbye to their child before they got to say a decent hello. These diapers, made with love, tell parents that someone understands that their child existed, that they are special, loved, real, and that they matter. The love that goes into these diapers tells a grieving parent that someone understands that their loss is tremendous. Because “a person’s a person, no matter how small”.

As you can imagine, November is always a tender time of year for our family. Last year was the first November that I didn’t spend the first half of the month hiding under my covers in bed, eating chocolate leftover from Halloween. As I sewed for angel families, I felt close to my son and my heart was filled with love and a peace I didn’t know was possible.

Many of our volunteers are angel families themselves, some of them still the walking wounded. As they participate in serving others in a similar plight, a miracle happens. They find their own sorrows lessened and their hearts begin to heal. Joy is found and lives are changed.

We are coming up on our first Teeny Tears anniversary next month! One year of our project! What began as a personal labor of love for the angel families at our local hospital has caught on like wildfire within the bereavement community. We have a busy Facebook group filled with volunteers across the United States as well as in Canada, Australia, and New Zealand who are gathering their families, friends, neighbors, and churches to serve Heavenly Father’s tiniest children and their bereaved families. We just made our first delivery to a hospital in Guatemala. As an inexpensive, simple, unique, educational, and meaningful service opportunity, our diapers are being sewn by families, sewing clubs, youth groups, Eagle Projects, Angel Mother grief support organizations, and churches of all religious denominations. We encourage our volunteers to donate within their local communities and we also match volunteers with hospitals all over the country on our growing waiting list. Grandmothers are digging their flannel scraps out of storage, families are repurposing old receiving blankets and shopping yard sales for fabric remnants. And we know when all the fabric sales are going on!


The need for these diapers is enormous. If you would like to participate in the Teeny Tears project, there are many ways! You can visit our blog to download free patterns and sew in the comfort of your own home, donating to the hospital or bereavement support organization of your choice. Donate within your community or adopt one of the hospitals on our waiting list. We LOVE to highlight all donations and volunteers on our blog!

Join our busy Facebook participation group! It’s a great place to get started, ask questions, share pictures and progress, find out about fabric sales, and enjoy the association of others who are participating in the project. There you can also download our “tips and tricks” to navigating hospital bureaucracy to obtain approval for a diaper donation.

Can’t sew? We accept unsewn diaper-cut outs at our headquarters and financial contributions through our blog. Do you ever shop online? Sign up with iGive.com and a small portion of your purchases from many of your favorite stores will be donated to Teeny Tears. No cost to you, nice donations for Teeny Tears!

Together, we will ensure that the tiniest angel babies are afforded dignity and respect during their brief earthly journey. “Because a person’s a person, no matter how small.”

Thank you, Life after NICU, for allowing me to share this project that is so dear to my heart!

Thank you, Megan, for being such an inspiration!  It’s only been 11 months since Teeny Tears was founded, and to date, they’ve donated over 10,000 diapers!!  Absolutely amazing… keep up the great work!

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